Mum update

Mum signed on to hospice today. There is a lot more to say, but I can type none of it. She will not be in pain. This is important. How much time she has left is unknown, but she wishes not to fight the cancer anymore. She’s had enough, and at the end of your life, if nothing else, if you can’t get a “mircale” then you must get what you wish. She gave me durable POA 7 years ago, just in case something like this occurred. She was in too much pain to sign the papers. I did so for her. It is her wish and when someone entrusts you with POA, you are honor bound to make their wishes come true.

It hurts like hell.

22 comments on “Mum update

  1. {{{{{YOU}}}}} I’m sorry hun. I know just how terribly it hurts. If you ever need to talk, I’m here, and if not…just know that you are not alone in your pain (not that it tends to make the pain any less).

  2. I am so sorry. I can not imagine the pain.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  3. Oh, much good wishes for you all.

    I do think there’s a point where for many people, the fighting it takes the good times that might have happened at the end. My father was lucky – he died really fast, after he hit the end (taught Thursday morning, did some other things. Went into the hospital Friday morning, died just after midnight)

    I know my parents talked about hospice then, because of the pain issues, and how much it might affect the end. It did *me* a lot of good, I know, to know that he had really good pallative care once it really mattered. Still does. I don’t know if that’s any help at all.

  4. celebrate her and her life with her

  5. Pamela I’m sorry
    I’ve been thinking of you and your family and your mom every day and I don’t want to bother you with emails.
    Take care..and kiss her!

  6. This is the part that is the worst. My good friend just lost her husband this weekend. His illness came on so suddenly. One day fine, within a week, hospice. And now…

    I am DPOA for my mother and I will honestly admit that my greatest fear is what you are having to face. I am very sorry for you. For your mom, I wish her peace.

  7. My thoughts are with you.


  8. Oh, PJ, I am so sorry. {{{you}}}


  9. I’m terribly sorry PJ. Blessings of comfort and strength to you both.

  10. {{{PJ}}} I’m sorry. Call me if you need to. I’ve been through this with Joe, and I know how hard it can be to sign away someone’s life.

    Take this time you have with her to celebrate her life. Be with her as much as you can. Hospice is the kindest thing that can happen to someone who is tired of fighting the inevitable. Enjoy the time you have left with her.

    Blessings of strength and comfort to all of you.

  11. Bless you my sweet sister. I understand how difficult this is for you. Saying goodbye is never easy, but your mother is very blessed to have such a beautiful daughter as you.

    I love you babe. Know that I am here for you and respect your privacy and your pain. If you need a shoulder to cry on just call me.


  12. Oh, Pamela. (Hugs)

    You are your mom have been in my prayers, and I will continue to hold you there.


  13. My friend – my heart aches for you and your family.


  14. I wish I could be there sooner.

  15. Oh PJ! I am soo sorry. *Hugs* and lit candles and prayers.

  16. {{{{{PJ & PJ’s Mum & PJ’s Family}}}}}}

    I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

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