A leader goes first where they want you to go…and at the same time, a leader stands behind you. It is in holding this duality that shit gets done. It is in holding this duality that a leader disappears into the fabric of the moment.
A leader trusts that you will bring your excellence to the table, holds you up while you stretch past your comfort zone, and believes that you will touch the golden core that’s at the heart of you.
“A leader is best When people barely know he exists, When his work is done, his aim fulfilled, They will say: We did it ourselves.” ~Lao-Tzu
Bone and Briar 
I’ve found this to be absolutely true. When I’m facilitating a training session at work, the words I listen for are “Oh, Jason didn’t really do much. We figured everything out together, he might as well not have been here.” That’s when I do a little happy dance on the inside.
Twinkle fingers to that!